Blogs about Child Development, Attachment, Family Dynamics, Parenting, and Therapy

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Why Children Idealize the Inconsistent Parent and Lash Out at the Other and What Parents Can do to Help a Child Feel Safe and Loved When a Parent is Unavailable

Some children strongly idealize or defend a parent who is inconsistent, emotionally unavailable, or absent. At the same time, they may blame, reject, or lash out at the parent who is consistent, present, and emotionally available. This pattern is painful, but it is not a sign that the consistent parent is doing something wrong.

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Understanding ADHD: A Guide for Parents

Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) is a neurodevelopmental condition that affects how the brain manages focus, energy, and self-control. It is not caused by bad parenting, laziness, or lack of motivation. Children with ADHD often want to do well—but their brains process attention and impulses differently.

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Helping Your Child Feel Understood: Validation Skills for Parents

For children, feelings can be experienced as very intense and overwhelming. When their emotions are dismissed or minimized, it can increase distress and lead to withdrawal, anger, or self-destructive behaviors. Validation helps calm emotional intensity, build trust, and improve communication.

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